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How
to Deal With Verbal Aggression by Robert Agar-Hutton
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this great book here!
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gar-Hutton
is an Englishman with a background
from martial arts (karate and tai
chi), a former accountant and software
programmer. He runs the company Protectics,
working as a consultant within the field
of conflict and stress management,
in dealing with aggressive behaviour.
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According
to the preface this book is primarily targeted
towards dealing with aggressive people in
the context of work. Even so it is equally
valid in a personal contexts, relating
to family, friends and strangers. This I
readily can testify to, the principles
are just that: principles. The basis of
good communication is needed everywhere
to avoid frustration and possibel aggression.
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This
is a workbook, where different tasks are given
in each chapter. The author begins with
looking at some of the causes to anger.
Here he looks at anger as a secondary emotion,
following (most often) being scared,
being hurt or being ignored. He ties this
in with our fight-flight responses.
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After
that Agar-Hutton show the various ways in
which we express anger. As you surely are
aware of, not everyone explodes in verbal anger
or rage. Some may withdraw, some may use
irony or criticism, others can use physical
violence aso.
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From
here on the book is about practical methodes
of dealing with verbal aggression. This
may indeed be termed "verbal self-defense",
since any verbal conflict may escalate into
something more threatening and maybe also
dangerous all together.
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He
has a brief look at the term Cybernetics,
and how this fits in with conflict management.
Amongst other things cybernetics states
that the part or person with the highest
degree of flexibility and variation will
be able to determine the outcome (being
in control). Agar-Hutton then goes on to
discuss various practical verbal and non-verbal
methods.
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To
yours truly, who works with conflict management
as a consultant on a daily basis, there
is a lot of things here that are familiar.
Even so there are also new and interesting
angles and things here and there that are
quite new and refreshing. Even quite obvious
things can prove beneficial because of the
way they are presented, or as a result of
the context in which they are given. The
key to new knowledge is very often how familiar
things are handed over in a systematical
or a different format. This book is very
clear and systematic, and should prove valuable
to you - no matter your level of experience. |
There
are lots of sound advice, and methods that
will work in this book. For example
to ask a question in such a way that the
other person has a good reason (for him
or her) to answer. The author calls this
smart questions. There are many people working
with support, with clients, with customers or
within public, private or corporate service
that could need a solid dose of a book such
as this - or that could use a seminar or
two! |
This
is a pdf-format e-book, that I can
recommend to you. It is easy (and quick)
to get hold of it on the Net by
clicking here - convenient if you are in a hurry!
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ISBN nr.:
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1-899293-24-8
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Author:
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Robert
Agar-Hutton
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Published:
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UK, 2003
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By:
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Troubador Publishing
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